It's hard to believe, dear Readers, but my calendar confirms it. Tomorrow, June 18, 2017, we will have been married 40 years. And what a gift it has been!
I have to laugh just a bit because when I was a much younger wife, an 'elderly' couple stood up in church to announce that were celebrating their 40th anniversary. I and my friends all thought that they were hopelessly old! We were in awe of all those years, and now, just look. It's happening to me! And I am blessed - not at all 'hopeless'.
When we were just starting out, one day the subject of marriage came up at work in the teacher's lounge. I said something about planning to stay married to my husband 'till death do us part'. Like the marriage vows, you know? My boss scoffed at what he called a 'naive' goal, saying, "You can't know that."
"I can know it," I replied.
"I don't see how anyone can know that they will stay married. It's ridiculous."
"All the same, it is a part of the marriage vow," I continued, as respectfully as I could. He was my boss, after all.
"Well, yes, I suppose it is."
"Did you say that vow when you got married?" I was genuinely interested in his answer.
"..Yes, I - we - did."
"Well, that was a Vow. A promise to be kept. All I am saying is that I mean to keep it, through God's strength."
Over the next several days that conversation played itself over and over to me, and a song sprang up out of me in response. And here it is.
In a time when marriage vows are said
With a thousand good intentions,
And the man and wife give promise to continue to the end,
But in the shadow of their minds, they know there
Just might come a day,
When they'll choose to say goodbye if things wrong.
I shall stay, I will stay with you,
And I'll see you through your young and elder years.
We will face the harder moments through our tears,
But I'll be here, I can't bear to miss one gray or golden year.
-copyright 1981, HeartSongs
And so, Happy Anniversary, my darling. I love you, and it's been an honor. You are still the funniest man I know.
See you along the Way!